Goodbye Raccoon Eyes

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I have quite the beauty secret that I have been harboring for quite sometime now, and I am head-over-heels in love with it! Have you heard of the Garnier SkinActive Micellar Cleansing Water?

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It’s amazing!!!

I have tried many different brands of make-up removing wipes and never been completely satisfied with it. Yes, they do eventually take your make-off, but I always felt they never totally cleansed my skin.

How many times have you taken a shower and still come out with raccoon eyes? ME! Practically every time I wear makeup….until I used the Micellar Cleansing Water!

It literally works wonders!

Naturally I have very sensitive skin…everything makes me break-out…dry my skin…or turn certain areas of my face red. So, I don’t wear a lot of make-up…and if you know me at all I am a “creature of habit,” if something works…don’t change it. When I purchased this Micellar Cleansing Water up a month of so ago…I was very apprehensive about trying it out.

The first day I wore light make-up…just to give it a whirl. As soon as the water touched my mascara it wiped right off. No scrubbing involved. The best part I was able to take a shower without looking like a raccoon afterwords. But I still was not convinced….was it a fluke?

A few days later…I went all out…applied more makeup than what I would ever wear! The full works! I was anxious to see if the Micellar Cleansing Water worked as well as it did the first time around, and to my surprise it did!

The loads of make-up I wore basically just melted off my face and my skin felt so clean. I was absolutely shocked how well this product worked…better than soap and water combination or brand name cleaning and make-up remover wipes! This product does not have a scent, burn my eyes or dry my skin out.

The Micellar Cleansing Water even comes in the option for people that wear waterproof mascara, I am curious how well that works.

Another aspect that I like is that it’s very affordable! You can’t go wrong with that, especially if you are on a budget life myself.

As long as Garner keeps producing this product, I am going to be one loyal customer.

What is your favorite beauty secret?

 

Links & Loves & Thoughts

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Happy Friday Everyone! What a long week it has been! Tonight I am thinking Pizza for dinner and wine later in the evening!

One of my favorite parts about summer is; at the end of the day when Sophia is asleep, kitchen is cleaned and maybe the last bit of my laundry is folded…I get to sit outside and drink some wine. It is just so relaxing, but I do have to coat myself in bug spray. I am sugar water to those little buggers…if there was one mosquito left in the entire world..it would manage to find me sitting on my back porch in the suburbs of Pittsburgh and bite the heck out of me. I really wish I was exaggerating!

Tip: Add fresh cut strawberries to white wine, it’s so good! Plus you’ll get to eat wine infused strawberries…I mean come on…yumm!

What do you like to do in the summer once the kids are asleep?

Now onto links:

I am dying to try this for the upcoming fall and winter months!

I bought this last winter, when my face was terribly dry. This is amazing…they should make a cheer about this mask…it’s that good. A little goes a long way! May have to do a review on this in the future!

Has anyone tried the Barrymore Wines? 

This s the best make-up sponge in the world!!!! Give it a try! And super affordable!

Do you need a good movie for a movie night? If you don’t have Netflix…sign up for the free trial to just watch this movie! This was by far one of the best movies I have watched in a really long time! It kept me on the edge of my seat the entire time!

I hope everyone has a fantastic Friday!

 

 

 

 

 

Answering Your Divorce Questions

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As many of your have noticed opening up about my divorce has definitely lead to many questions from readers, family members, friends, the occasional stranger and hell..even my therapist.

This year has been some of the hardest personal moments in my life. I was constantly reflecting, over analyzing ever detail and questioning whether or not if I was making the right decision. It sure as hell was not an easy process, but a process that I think anyone that is going through a divorce experiences.

So, here are a few selected questions that I have received since January….

1. Do you think it’s possible to be friends after a divorce? I would love to say yes, but I believe it honestly depends on the couple. I know that anyone can be decent towards each other, and have a mutual respect for one another, but as far as friends I am not quite sure. If there are children involved, I would say yes, for your children sake…yes. Now I am not saying you have sit on the phone with each other and talk every day, but the line of communication has to be open…especially when it comes to parenting. Adrians and I decided that we wanted to make the process as easy as possible, neither one of us like confrontation of any kind; but we wanted the transformation to be easy for Sophia. Your kids should be your priority married or not. As parents you sometimes have to set your feelings aside for your children’s sake. It might not be easy, but your children will notice it…because believe me they are smart and they notice everything even when you think they don’t. 

2. How do you decide on custody? You have to evaluate the situation. The last thing you want to do it uproot your child’s entire life anymore than what you have too. Sometimes you may have to look at the bigger picture, is the child being cared for? Are there drugs involved? etc. Then that’s when you take a different approach to things. 

If, everything is “normal,” and the parents are just divorcing for whatever reason, then in my opinion there is nothing wrong with joint custody. No matter the reasoning for divorcing one parent should never use their child a punishment towards the other parent. Don’t deny your children of them seeing their parents, that is so unfair to that child. You are hurting them more than what you think. 

3. Do you think you will ever tell us the direct reason for your divorce? Not without talking with Adrian first. This is one thing that I would never do is reveal our reasoning for our divorce without making sure it is okay with that other person. I respect him. I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me without talking to me first. I would probably have him read my draft post first to make sure he is comfortable with it. And if he didn’t feel comfortable with me making a post about our direct reason for divorcing then I wouldn’t write one. Sometimes things should be left private. 

4. Do you think a couple can reconcile after one cheated? I like to say anything is possible, every couple is different. Just because The Jone’s down the street didn’t make it after one was unfaithful; doesn’t mean you won’t. I believe that it would take a lot of work from both sides to get back on track and to regain that trust. This is definitely a loaded question. Personally speaking, I don’t think I would be willing to work on my marriage if my spouse was unfaithful. When I am in a relationship with someone I should be able to trust them 100%, when I am not with them. I have been cheated on before in the past with boyfriends and it’s not fun. I once took the guy back, and never fully trusted him…even though I wanted too..the trust never fully came back. That relationship ended. There would come a point in a relationship where you will question there whereabouts…if they are late for dinner; were they with that person? etc. It just becomes exhausting. 

If you are a couple that wants to try to reconcile your relationship I would say; find yourselves a good therapist. Open yourself to answer every question that the other person may have regardless how uncomfortable it may make you feel. And be 100% honest with them….you have too. Own up to your mistake, be an adult about it and don’t ever make that person ever feel like they deserved this or this is someone their fault. Because no matter what at the end of the day you chose to be unfaithful…your partner wasn’t cheering you on to do it….you made the executive decision to do it. So, own it. 

5. What did you find most annoying about divorce? Interesting question, I would say how easy it is to get married and how involved it is to get divorced. I am really cut and dry kind of person on some things….what I found to be annoying was the divorce process…all that damn paper work. Adrian and I settled on our own terms we didn’t go through the court system…so it was easy is some fashion, but nonetheless the gosh darn paperwork was never ending. The idea that a divorce can take months, whereas a marriage can take a few minutes was just mind boggling to me. 

6. Do you believe in Prenuptial Agreements? Yes, I do. I don’t think there is anything wrong with them. I mean there is nothing wrong with protecting your own ass to say the least. Marriage is about love, not what is in the bank. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be stable, but never should you marry someone for their money. 

7. Do you look at marriage in a more negative way, since yours ended? Hm. At one point back in February this year I was in such a negative spot that I wanted nothing to do with the thought of marriage or even men. I was so terribly negative that the thought of a relationship or marriage was so unappealing…it seemed more like a chore than anything. Now, I am summing everything up as a learning experience. As of right now I am looking forward to what the future holds regardless of a relationship or marriage. It took me a long time to get to this mentality, it took months of mourning my marriage…Adrian…our future we had planned… and countless hours with my therapist. It wasn’t easy by any means, but no I am not negative towards marriage. 

8. Was your divorce hard? If you are asking in terms of the emotional side to my divorce was it hard? Yes, it was the worst part. I loved Adrian with all of my heart, and losing someone that you feel that way towards is never easy at all. As far as getting a divorce; my divorce from Adrian was probably easier than most marriages. We didn’t slaughter each other in court..we kept it very private… the line of communication was open. We agreed on our own terms such as child support…custody…and other personal terms. We didn’t want to battle it out in court. 

If you have anymore questions that you would like answered please do not hesitate to email me at: sarah.bellalife@gmail.com

**I am not a therapist, these questions are solely answered with my own opinions.**

 

 

 

 

Ugly, but Good.. No – Bake Cookies

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These cookies are definitely my go-to cookies to make in the summer, literally for some simple reason….I don’t need to bake them! Plus they are Peanut Butter and Chocolate…need I say more?

I have been making these cookies for Sophia and I in the summer for the last two years that keep resurfacing every year!

Look, I totally get it….. they’re aren’t pretty and probably the most ugliest cookie you’ll ever see, but they totally makeup for it in taste. I promise!

What You Need:

2 C. Sugar

1/2 Milk

1/2 stick of Butter

3 TBSP. Hershey Cocoa Powder

3 C. Quick Oats (has to be the quick oats)

1/3 C. Peanut Butter

1 tsp. Vanilla

Instructions:

  1. Combine your Quick Oats, Peanut Butter and Vanilla in a bowl.
  2. In a mediums size pot add your Sugar, Milk, Cocoa and butter put on the stove bring to a boil. Stir it quite frequently. Until everything is all melted and combined
  3. Add your hot mixture to your Quick Oats, Peanut Butter and Vanilla….stir until everything is all combined.
  4. Place about a tablespoon size or two to Parchment Paper and allow it to cool and harden before eating.

If you try this recipe out let me know how you like it!!!!!

 

 

Let’s Catch Up

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This week has been quiet over here on the blog, life has been really busy this week. My nephew stayed a week with me and it was awesome! He is such an awesome kid that I don’t get tired of hanging out with him. The other factor is normally I blog late at night, and this week it wasn’t happening…my iron has been off for several days, so when Sophia was going to bed I wasn’t to far behind her.

Between the extra iron pill and the large amount of Spinach intake this week..I am finally feeling back to normal. If you have an iron deficiency issue you probably know exactly what I am talking about. When I was pregnant with Sophia I had to take my prenatal vitamin everyday and an extra iron vitamin on top of it. When my iron is off, I can probably sleep the entire day away, but with an almost three year old….that’s impossible.

Random Thoughts…

Sophia is a child that is filled with endless energy, from the moment she wakes up..she is literally up and out of bed..ready to go. Meanwhile, I am not…I prefer to take my time. So most mornings I am pretty sure I look like a something that should be cast in the show The Walking Dead. Poor child.

If you are a subway lover like me then I must share with you my favorite thing to eat there. Now my bread alternates a lot but typically I enjoy their Italian Bread the best. I found the the Italian Herb and Cheese can be a bit to much for me, flavor wise. I normally will get their Turkey with Provolone….NOT TOASTED….a good amount of Spinach…Cucumbers….Black Olives and literally one squirt of Mayo. If I don’t get Turkey then I will make it a Veggie Sandwich…that’s only when I want to feel extra healthy. Panera used to be my favorite sandwich place to eat at, but it’s gone downhill; plus it’s expensive. Sophia and I ate there about a month ago, for my sandwich and her kids sandwich it came to about 25 dollars. The sandwiches weren’t anything to ride home about.

My divorce is final next week. I didn’t realize it was coming up so soon. Adrian and I didn’t go through family-court system, we agreed on our own terms with lawyers involved. Last Thursday we signed our agreement forms and I thought the 3-month waiting period would take place once it was filed, but when I contacted my lawyer she told me one day next week it’s final. I was really shocked, definitely wasn’t expecting that to be my answer. The 3-month waiting period starts once you petition the court for a divorce. I did mine about 5 months ago, but with Adrian being on the road as a trucker it’s hard to serve papers. It was just a waiting game, but I will be doing a post next week on my final thought on everything. It will probably be a very bittersweet post.

Random Links…

Check this blog out! Her recipes look amazing and her humor is just perfect! If you’re feeling blah just go check out her instagram stories…they’re the best!

I love this double hood Sweatshirt and this one!

I am thinking about going here next summerThe last time I was there was when I was 22. If you go, I suggest on going in July or August. I went one time in June…it was chilly the entire week.

Ever been to Aspen, Colorado? I am dying to go there and also Banff, Canada. I have never went skiing before (my family weren’t very outdoorsy people growing up), I am actually quite terrified of it..especially since Sonny Bono wrapped himself around a tree and died, I can totally see myself doing that somehow; or just getting really jacked up. I am better with water sports.

Do you have any fun weekend plans?

 

Answering your Dating Questions

 

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Ever since I have opened up about my divorce on here I have received a few emails asking about some dating advice, divorce advice…and some just want to know some other stuff about my person a life. So here I am to answer your questions..

1. Are you dating anyone? I am not dating anyone…I’m not even talking too anyone, I am strictly on a friendship level with my guy friends..also known as “the friends zone.” My guy friends are like brothers to me, so I think to take it to the “next level,” would be strange. 

2. Are you looking to date anyone? Let’s just say if someone came along that I was interested in or wanted to date…then yes I would go on a date. But honestly I am not seeking a relationship out. I am not going joining dating sites and when I got out with friends it’s just to get out and have fun. If I meet someone…then I meet someone. 

3. Are you excited about dating? And what advice do you have for dating? Ha! This is a loaded question. I am excited about meeting new people and see where it takes me. I am not looking for anything serious right off the bat, but if it turns serious in the future then so be it. I guess you can say I am excited about the possibility of dating, but I am also nervous because it’s been quite sometime.  Advice for dating? Oh boy! I have not dated in 6.5 years! I am pretty sure some things have changed since then a bit…or not…but I will always say, be yourself and be honest with that person up front. I think being yourself can be a little intimidating because we all have weird quirks and what if that person thinks “you’re strange,” then I say so be it. If they don’t like you I’m sure you’ll find someone that thinks your strangeness’ is cute. As far as honesty, this is a biggie for me. I want an honest relationship especially if things get serious. I think it is only right to be honest with that person about yourself especially if you see your relationship progressing to a more serious level. It’s only fair to both parties that are involved.

4. How do you plan on dating while being a single parent and when will Sophia meet the person you’re dating? As I mentioned in a previous post that my number one priority is Sophia. The man that I am dating has to understand that I am Sophia’s main parent. I am a single mom, with the help of my family, but still at the end of the day Sophia completely relies on me 100% of the time. I have dated when I was younger and I know it is going to be more challenging now; considering being a single mom. But when the right guy comes around he will be patient and we will work with each other. Relationships are not a one way street, you have to work at them together. Sophia will not know that I am dating anyone until I feel comfortable on having her meet that person. Meaning, when I date someone they won’t be meeting her right off the bat. I don’t want her to get attached to someone, then we break up and Sophia be hurt because she “misses them.” And I hope the person I am dating understands that. In the long run I am protecting my daughter. My personal life and being a mother are completely separate until I feel things progress in that relationship. 

5. Sex and dating? Another loaded question that makes me blush even thinking about it. Sex and dating… I am not a one date kind of gal and jump into bed with you the next night. I want to know the person that I could potentially being intimate with and I want them to respect me. Everyone has their own way of handling sex and dating, and whatever you choose to do that is your own business and I would never judge you. But personally speaking being intimate with someone is special act and a very personal act between two people. Plus I am deathly afraid of STD’s so sex isn’t that big of a deal to me and it isn’t worth a one-night-stand. I want to be comfortable with that person, I want there to be a mutual respect between the both of us for each other. 

6. What kind of guys do you like? I really don’t think I have “type,” per say. I am attracted to guys that can dance like Channing Tatum or Robert Hoffman…break dancing. I am not to picky, but naturally I am attracted to dark hair or lighter colored hair. I love someone that has a great sense of humor but knows when to be serious. Taller than me, but that’s not to hard because I’m about 5’4 1/2…5’5. I have a tendency to dating older guys, Adrian was 9 years older than me. Considering I am 29 I definitely want to date someone that is in their 30’s. I definitely want to be with someone that has a good job and their heads on straight. 

7. What was the worst date you ever been on? I was a senior in high school, and I went on a date with this guy but I don’t even think it qualifies as a date. It was weird. It was my aunts friends son who was around my age. Maybe a year older…who knows…anyways my aunt had this idea about us “hanging out.” I honestly didn’t want to, but I figured what the hell…it can’t hurt. This guy invited me to hang out with some of his friends…like a group date. I felt like I had no choice so I went. A group of his friends literally played frisbee in a parking lot and I just stood there. I was so bored and couldn’t wait to leave and go home. Like a good sport I stuck it out. We talked for like a few minutes and instantly I knew I wasn’t into him. I called a good friend of mine Crystal and was like “there are a bunch of hot guys where I am at…come hang out with us.” She came up and said “where are all the hot guys.” I told her I straight up lied to her so we can hang out. We lasted like a half hour and then hit the road. I left that guy in the parking lot and he said “I will call ya babe.” I rolled my eyes and left. He called like two days later and asked me to prom. I pretended I didn’t get his message. It was so strange. I never saw him again.

8. Where would you like to see yourself in 5 years? I want too ultimately be happy. I would love to be married and possibly have more kids. I would love Sophia to have some siblings. But my dream would be to have a family and build my own home. If I am not married, I at least want a healthy relationship. But if neither of those come true, then I definitely want to be the best mom that I can be and give Sophia the best life I can. So, ultimately raise my little girl and be happy!

If you have any questions to ask please email me at sarah.bellalife@gmail.com or just comment below!